Why I’m anti-diet / anti-losing weight

When I was in high school, I was larger than some of the girls in my class. I thought I was fat.

Looking back and going through some of the pictures from high school, I realize I wasn’t fat at all. I was a wonderful healthy weight with wonderful healthy curves. The reality is at that time I was misguided.

no dietIn 2004 I lost a lot of weight as a result of my marriage ending. If you asked me how I did it, I couldn’t tell you. I was still eating. I had a very healthy relationship with desserts. But even though my weight and dress size had gone down I wasn’t happy nor did I feel I looked good.

Nine years later I’m taking a stand against diets and the phrase “losing weight.”

My stand is that I am going to first love myself the way I am.

I’ve always been heavy but most people couldn’t guess my correct weight. My critical health numbers are good although I am anemic. I look good in the clothes I wear. I’ve got an hourglass figure.  I would say in general, I’m not too bad for a chick in her 40s.

I’ve been around people who constantly talk about losing weight. They don’t say “get healthy.”  They are always losing weight. Always. This makes me wonder if they really want to lose weight or if there’s something else they want to change about themselves. Most of the time it is not their weight. Also, I’ve seen what yo-yo dieting does to a person’s heart. It’s not pretty.

what your weight does not tell youWhat I have learned from my life is I’m in a good place. My primary focus is choosing healthy foods, enjoying some of the bad stuff (if I don’t have it I will crave it and eat more), and managing stress. Why would I want to add more stress by dieting?

I’ve found for my life that through loving myself I make better choices. Through those choices I have been able to maintain my weight and dress size. Accepting myself also energizes me to do the stuff I love like rebounding, walking and dancing my butt off when the rhythm is gonna get me (click this link and move).

What are your healthy choices?


  1. Your words are very inspiring! It’s true that most people, especially young girls can’t see the difference between dieting and eating healthy. We have to cherish and take care of our bodies because it’s the only place we live in! x

    • Thanks for the kind words, Greta. I completely agree with you regarding girls and young women. They often see adult women constantly fretting over weight and they follow in those patterns. We have to stop that pattern. -nichole

  2. Hey! I realize this is somewhat off-topic but I needed to ask.

    Does building a well-established blog such as yours require a large amount of work?
    I am brand new to operating a blog however I do write in my diary on a daily basis.
    I’d like to start a blog so I will be able to share my personal experience and feelings online.
    Please let me know if you have any kind of recommendations or tips
    for brand new aspiring blog owners. Appreciate it!

    • Sorry for the delay in responding.

      If you enjoy writing and have thoughts and ideas you want to share, a blog is a great thing to do. It doesn’t have to be labor intensive. That will depend on your intention.

      There are a number of experts, thought leaders on blogging that I follow. I recommend Chris Brogan (http://chrisbrogan.com/) and Awsomely Techie (http://awesomelytechie.com/). You will learn a lot from them but experience will be the best teacher. Just jump in to the blogging arena! Best of luck.

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